I always felt like I didn’t fit in – How autism feels when you don’t know you’re on the spectrum

I grew up in a small town.

I have 3 brothers and 1 sister. I am the 4th child.

Ever since I can remember I was alone. I was labeled as a weird kid. I remember that I was confused about the fact that I was not allowed to be in the same company as my siblings. They were always of the opinion that I ‘should play outside’, so that’s what I did. I would imagine the most wonderful adventures with dragons and warriors and magic!

I recall the first time I saw a Hollywood movie, I was 6 years old. I live in a country where we drive on the left side of the street and we grow up learning to speak a second language, English, in school and with a British accent. So when I watched the first movie I was absolutely amazed at how fantastic it was that they drove on the right side of the street and spoke with a totally different accent! I remember thinking that the filmmakers had a huge imagination!

You can imagine how my brothers laughed at me for not knowing that America was a real place…

I was ridiculed but I was also determined to visit this magical place one day!! My number 1 item on my Bucket List is to see New York city!!!

I was mesmerized with movies and I started a lifelong journey that year, I started to watch each and every film I could find!

Now, I also felt excluded from everyone and everything by that age. I never understood how to communicate with others my age since they were not interested in movies like I was… It seems that not everyone memorized the dialog and knew the names of the actors and the characters in the film. They also did not know who the director was or they didn’t know what other movies he directed. They were more interested in playing with a ball or tackling each other. I didn’t like physical touch so I was shunned very quickly.

I remember that when my mother told me that I had to go to school the next year that I didn’t really want to. I got dressed on the first day in my new uniform and I recall it was very itchy. Material on my skin feels foreign and I have only certain pieces of clothing that I wear. Anyway, on the first day of school I walked into the classroom, took a look around and told the Teacher : ‘Good morning, Miss. Thanks for inviting me to come to your school but I don’t think I want to join your class. Have a great day!’ and I walked out of the school yard and started heading home.

The local Doctor happened to pass me by on my way home and stopped by the side of the road. He offered me a ride to my house and he was very impressed with my choice not to attend school. He explained to my mother what I had told him and he left.

She took me right back to school and told me that unfortunately school was not optional and I had to be there. I asked why and she said that if I didn’t go that I would get a hiding.

My father was very strict and it would not have been my first time getting a hiding either.

I didn’t understand what you were expected to do at school but I didn’t want to feel his belt on my butt either!

So there I was with 26 other kids in a classroom and I was never allowed to tell them or the teacher about movies and the wonderful magical place called America!!!

I was told to keep quiet and to pay attention or else I would have to be sent to the Headmaster and he was then going to give me a hiding…

So I did what I was told…

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12 responses to “I always felt like I didn’t fit in – How autism feels when you don’t know you’re on the spectrum”

  1. josborne17602 Avatar

    I liked school and didn’t have to wear a uniform, just a dress (girls were not allowed to wear pants in school back then). I’d have never thought that, if I didn’t want to do something, I could just say, “No thank you!” That’s a creativity you possessed at such a young age!

    While not a movie nut, I adore musicals and will watch the same ones over and over and over again. I don’t know all of the details you know about things, but I can sure sing every word to every song! Enjoy your knowledge – it makes you happy!

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  2. emergingfromthedarknight Avatar

    This resonates.. I hated school too and remember being so uncomfortable in the uniform on that first day.. I love your audacity in being able to articulate how you really felt.. stay true to you because who you are is beautiful.. ❤

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  3. emergingfromthedarknight Avatar

    Reblogged this on Emerging From The Dark Night and commented:
    This post really resonated with me. A lot of highly sensitive children love movies.. why is it that the best people always get punished because they wont toe the line, so they end up feeling the outsider.. possibly better than fitting into a conformist system.

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  4. shylyextrovert Avatar

    It must take so much courage to live when you don’t fit in. More power to you ❣️

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